It is this time of year again. 2018 is coming to an end and 2019 is round the corner. Traditionally, we celebrate the end of a year and make resolutions for the new year.
STOP MAKING NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS !
We all feel like we have to attend or organise a big party on the 31st December to close the book over a year. And what happens is that we tend to remember the mistakes, the difficult moments, the disappointments, the upsets and look forward to moving on.
Naturally our brain has a negativity bias. Even though we have on average 3 times more positive experiences in one single day, we always tend to remember the tough moments. These stats apply to our years. We are never celebrating the past year, we are celebrating the end of it, like this year was an ordeal. We are reinforcing the negativity bias of the brain and keeping ourselves in a mindset of “lack” just as we start the adventure of the new year.
Celebrate the good moments and start the new year with a positive mindset
So before the countdown to the new year, take a moment to rebalance your brain by focussing on the good things that happened to you in 2018. You might have had to face difficulties, maybe at home, maybe at work but you have made it, you for sure have learn and grown. Take a look at your lessons but most importantly your achievements, your best moments, the surprises that life threw at you, the moments of laughter, love, growth, all of them, even the small ones.
Ditch the resolutions and instead choose “intentions”
And please, do not make any resolutions! The word “resolution” has a huge negative connotation, it is often associated with breaking a bad habit ! I will loose 10 pounds, i will stop smoking, i will drink less, i will work harder, i will go to the gym 3 times a week, i will not eat junk food, i will spend more time with my children. These resolutions become an obligation we create for ourselves with the unspoken expectation that it will be hard and that we will most likely fail.
Having an intention is much more powerful. It is just a change of word but a great brain hack ! The words we use have a huge power on our behaviours. By setting intentions, rather than resolutions, you focus on the positive and set yourself up for success.
So, what are your intentions ? What are the things you want to do that light your fire and that will bring you more life satisfaction ?
Have fun tonight !
Celebrate the goodness of 2018 and set your intentions for a very Happy 2019
Happy New Year to you all